When Would You Kick Your Spouse Out Of Your House?
All across the US stories are emerging in increasing frequency of one of the spouses in a marriage snapping, becoming violent, irrational and maliciously evil. Next, one spouse or the other does something rash that result in irreversible and irreparable damage, all because the nurturing spouse did not take action soon enough by getting their partner help or by removing them from the home and property permanently.
When enough of the signs become apparent, act; don’t continue to endure under the false hope of a better day and complete reversal of true nature. Kick your spouse out of your house. The breakup or complete unnecessary destruction is inevitable.
Consider the case of, let’s call them George and Nancy to protect their identities. George is in his late 50′s and a Vietnam veteran who, like so many young men left for war immediately after high school and returned from war physically whole but mentally very damaged. George had been raised in a devoted God fearing home. Fortunately for George he came from great stock and his parents, his father a WWII vet himself, helped him to get plenty of great professional and spiritual help when he returned from Nam.
George, after a couple of years of getting his head fixed proceeded to get involved in real estate, gobbling up all of the educational material he could get his hands on and studying the successful real estate power brokers in the industry so he could learn from and emulate them. George devoted all of his effort to building what became a modest to large and highly successful real estate and construction business. He was also still a single and eligible bachelor during his many years of building his business.
George owned outright a large and very nice home on the eastern coast, a great many acres of land both on beautiful beaches and scenic mountain ranges, vehicles and he leads a fleet of highly qualified and very well paid employees. He gave large sums of money to charity and military causes hoping to help as many returning Vets as he could. He was all too familiar with what they faced upon return to civilian life in the USA. By all measure George was a very successful entrepreneur.
While dining with some friends at a local restaurant, George noticed the Maitre d’ giving him more than a couple of extended looks. She was a very attractive young woman appearing to be couple of years younger than George. George’s friends noticed as well and encouraged George to speak with the young lady since, as they chanted, “George, you need a good woman and you’re not getting any younger.” George took the advice and ended up asking Nancy, the Maitre d’ out for a date.
The first date went well and the dating continued for about a year. George and Nancy became a “couple”. Nancy was a surprisingly well spoken and diversely experienced lady of modest means for someone who had always lived in the same small town and had attended the local junior college without ever graduating. They spent a great deal of time telling each other about their early life except that George never discussed his time in Vietnam.
George was completely smitten by Nancy and it seemed the feeling was mutual. One thing led to another and George and Nancy became husband and wife about a year and a half after their first meeting. Life was bliss for George and Nancy for the first year of their marriage and they were blessed with two beautiful and healthy little girls. Even before their first child was born Nancy made what George expected to be a difficult adjustment from being of modest means to sharing in George’s vast fortunes. George made all he owned available to her without condition.
Life was good! Then, like an unexpected house guest something changed.
Around the time George and Nancy first married the national economy began to show early signs of trouble. As the next five years progressed predictably the economy progressively became worse and George was required to spend a great deal more time and effort in realigning his holdings and struggling to keep the business profitable just like other business owners across the nation. Needless to say he was not as attentive to Nancy and the kids as he wished he could be.
During the five years of difficult economic times Nancy’s behavior was changing as well and not for the better. She seemed to always be distant, even angry when she was around George and the girls. Even with full knowledge that George was under significant pressure due to the economic conditions, she became increasingly selfish and demanding of George’s attention, time and actions. Often her actions appeared to be laced with the ultimate goal of punishing George for some unknown reason. She seemed on a mission to rule the family and all of its activity through demands and verbal punishment for non-submission. The times George questioned what was wrong or why this or that happened Nancy always blamed someone or some other event for her actions. George dismissed her behavior rationalizing that she has her own stresses dealing with the two young children.
George struggled daily to try to be understanding with Nancy, often to the point of blaming himself to vindicate her actions. She became reluctant to associate with any of George’s family, friends and associates including missing important husband / wife business dinners and outings with George’s family. Nancy only wanted to be around her friends from prior to the marriage, some of whom George had met but most he not only had not meet but knew nothing about. It was as if Nancy had carved out a separate life outside the marriage and was trying to be two different people.
Maybe the most difficult development in Nancy’s emerging behavior was the lies. Before they married Nancy told George about her family and her early life. In their first years as husband and wife much of what Nancy had said about her family turned out to be far different from what Nancy previously told him. In fact the difference was substantial. There were criminal and militant threads all through the reality of her family. George dismissed this to his possibly not paying enough attention during their courtship.
Now, with almost every conversation George detected some falsehood or embellishment. At first they were innocent and seemingly minor, simple for George to ignore. Then the lies began to migrate into more important areas such as the girl’s preschool and other activities. As time marched on, these embellishments became more life impacting and damaging, seemingly with malicious intent. They soon were blatant lies and deceptions and George struggled harder daily to overlook or explain away Nancy’s actions.
Not long after they were married George set up a well funded foundation for the purpose of owning and operating a very large beautiful park on the top of a scenic Blue Ridge Mountain location. It was equipped with facilities and memorials specifically dedicated to veterans. The park was open to all but catered especially to current and retired military personnel. He made Nancy and his veteran father the co-chairmen of the foundation to manage as they determined best. All went great for a year or so but now Nancy was shirking her responsibility to assist in the park’s operation leaving the entire burden on George’s aging father. Nancy was too busy with her friends to participate. She fabricated falsehoods about why and where she was when she missed important events and failed to execute her responsibilities to the foundation.
For the last year or two Nancy did not hesitate to spend excessively to purchase all sorts of things, some on the strangest of whims for items that quickly made it to the attic storage as the newness evaporated. Other purchases were items she gave to her set of private friends. All of this spending was done when Nancy was off with her group of friends. Maybe she was trying to impress them, George wondered?
Eventually the spending became not only excessive in number of items but the purchases became larger and larger. At first George beamed with pride that he was fortunate enough to make the resources available for Nancy to have whatever she wanted. After a while it became annoying because Nancy mostly purchased junk in Georges mind, but he held his tongue as he had the wealth and needed to keep his attention on his business.
This never before seen side of Nancy was tearing George and the family apart. The two very young girls showed apprehension, maybe even fear in their eyes every time Nancy erupted. George had no idea what to do or how to handle this predicament. Nancy was always angry at George for the smallest of reasons. On top of his home distress, his business was still requiring much attention to weather the current and still deteriorating economic climate.
George, his immediate and extended family and his business was being torn apart and it all seemed to be originating from the same source.
When Nancy’s spontaneous purchases extended to land and homes George had to object. She independently purchased another vacation home and some open range land without even consulting George. After all, that is what George’s business does. He has a fleet of appraisers and due diligence employees who evaluate every deal before he purchases land or homes. How could he possibly appreciate Nancy freewheel purchasing this kind of asset without even consulting him? When he spoke with Nancy about this she blew a gasket. She became visually angry and again verbally abusive. George finally left to go to his office and let this matter cool a bit while he collected his thoughts as to how to handle the situation.
When George returned home from his office he found a succinct note from Nancy simply stating she went to one of the vacation homes for a while. There was no specific comment if she had the girls with her or when she would return.
George called Nancy’s cell phone hoping to begin a discussion in his attempt to resolve their issues and find peace for the family. Nancy did answer but had no interest in doing anything but yelling at George. When George asked to speak to the girls, Nancy told him she did not have them. They are staying with Nancy’s brother and his girlfriend. This is the brother who has had much trouble with the law and is an active protester against the “evils of big business.” He has even protested in front of George’s business before.
When George protested and asked Nancy why she did not leave the girls with his parents like they had agreed to do in the past, Nancy made it clear she did not want the girls around his parents. She told George that she had told his mother she did not want the kids to be around them over a year ago. George had no idea that happened but now he understood why his parents have been distant for the last year or so. Nancy also told George that she had shut down the veteran park a month earlier because she got tired of dealing with the headache of it.
At this point George lost his temper, something he had not done since right after his return from Vietnam. He hung up the phone before he said something he could never repair. George needed time to determine what he is going to do because this can continue no more, not even another day.
And now in the words of the late great Paul Harvey, “The Rest of the Story”,
Understanding that the male / female roles in this story are not important because the story is very often reversed, the question for anyone reading this article is,
“At what point in this story would you have taken action and kicked this spouse out of the home You own”?
When is enough, enough? What action do you take and when?
Once you answer the question, read the story again and consider the following:
A) George represents every American Citizen; You. You own this country lock, stock and barrel. You own every federally managed park, monument, mountain, river, lake and beach. Most importantly many of your ancestors fought and died for you to have the opportunity to own this land and the Elite Military you now employ fights and dies every day to protect you right to keep it. You choose and employ the politicians from the President on down and the work force to administer the country’s every function. Every one of them whether you voted for them or not work for you.
B) Nancy represents President Obama who was only known through a very short courtship before marriage about five years ago. Little to nothing is known about his family and background as it has all been sealed for years.
While there have been many blatant lies and deliberately misleading statements from President Obama and his administration, just in the last three weeks we have witnessed premeditated actions to deceive and inflict the maximum pain on you. A short list of some examples is:
(Note that the punishment intended for you is always cowardly inflicted upon the weak, the elderly and those pledged to not retaliate such as our soldiers)
- You are being told that without increasing the President’s borrowing authority you cannot pay your country’s debt even though current law requires that interest on national debt be paid from current tax receipts before any other payments. Interest on your Country’s debt is approximately 18 billion dollars and current tax receipts are approximately 220 billion dollars, over 12 times what is needed monthly to avoid any possible threat of default.
- While the Government is operating at only about 85% of fully functional (referred by the administration as “Government Shutdown”) additional money has been spent to close the WWII Veterans Memorial and effort has been made to stop Veterans from visiting the memorial. This memorial is in the wide open spaces and normally publicly available without any paid assistance. Compare this to closing the street sidewalk in front of your home.
- The same is true for the Lincoln Memorial, Statue of Liberty, Ellis Island, Independence Hall, Alcatraz Island, Washington Monument, National Zoo, the Smithsonian, the roadway leading toward Mt Rushmore, the parking areas of many privately owned historical landmarks, most Civil War Battleground memorials that are never attended even when open and some privately owned homes on leased federally managed land. This is all YOUR Property and its closing or restricted access is purposely to cause maximum pain on YOU!
- Soldiers you employ serving in war zones in Afghanistan and other countries are not allowed to see most private television channels such as sports channels during their limited down time. This President has repeatedly punished the military to inflict pain on you during his five year stint in office.
- The Obama administration has ordered the shutdown of all commissaries on military bases but kept open the golf courses on those bases where he plays frequently. Primary henchmen scattered all through the Obama administration have been explicitly instructed to make this phoney shutdown as painful as possible on “You” by punishing those you love and cherish.
- All National Parks are closed. Now I want to drive this point home; “You” are being told that “You” are incapable of walking, hiking, camping or even bird watching in the open woods “You” own without President Obama’s permission.
During President Obama’s approximately 5 year tenure in Your house, he has made many erroneous or deceptive promises like,
- He will not allow any lobbyists in his administration. His administration is flush with them.
- His would be the most transparent administration in history. The precise opposite is true to the point that even the liberal press is regularly complaining. Consider the hidden and redacted documents and personnel involved in Eric Holder’s “Fast and Furious” gun running operation, the assassination of the US personnel in Benghazi while President played cards yet posed for a photo afterward to make you think he was present, the justice department repeatedly suing various states yet not prosecuting known voter violations such as the Black Panther incident and this list goes on for volumes.
- With the Affordable Care Act (i.e. ObamaCare) you can keep your policy, your doctor and cost will go down for the average family by $2,400 per year. In fact the average cost will increase by approximately $7,500 per year; you may not be able to keep your doctor or policy.
- He would lower the unemployment rate below 7% when in fact ObamaCare is causing thousands of employers to reduce employee work hours to less than 30 hours and the Obama administration still counts that as a job in its calculation of the unemployment rate.
- He said if he did not lower the deficit in his first four years he would not run again. In fact he has increased the deficit substantially. He made many economic promises but the bottom line is he has increased the indebtedness of the US more that it increased in the first 224 years of the Country’s existence.
This list could go on and on but the complete five years of lies and deceptions can be dealt with in further articles. The point is we have Nancy in the White House and he is doing his deliberate best to ruin your country, control your life and punish all who dare to disagree by punishing the weak, elderly and those pledged to not retaliate such as our soldiers.
Sooner or later we, you have to make an important decision if your country is to survive,
“When Will You Kick Nancy Out Of Your House?”